How to Talk to Girls
Wondering how to talk to girls is something most males fret over at some point during their lives, and to be sure, learning how to talk to girls can be a daunting challenge if you've had a history of rejections, or are new to the dating game.
There's a lot of, shall we say, interesting advice out there on how to talk to girls - some of it is better than others but some of it is downright rubbish. And the reason why? All women are different. What may work with one girl will have another one forgetting your name before she's finished talking to you.
But, even though women are all different, there are a couple of things that have always worked for me. How to talk to women and keep them interested basically comes down to confidence. I've found that I have much better luck when I approach a woman with the goal of getting her to pursue me, rather than trying to win her over. It's all about giving the impression that you are worthy of their attention and that you're giving them a great opportunity by talking to them. Don't take that too literally - you don't want to come across as arrogant, just as a good catch.
So when you're thinking about how to talk to girls, think about it as a game to enjoy, and not a test to pass. Go into it just for the fun of it. One useful tactic is to make her do most of the actual talking. We all know we're hopeless at small talk, but girls are good at polite conversation.
Oh, and be careful - when she asks you questions don't start to tell her your life story and try to win her over with tales of your greatness, tell her as little as possible and try to maintain something of an aura of mystery, but making stuff up is not how to talk to girls well - you'll get caught out sooner or later.
It goes without saying that you should never lie or be crude. Try and make her be the one who feels she has to prove herself worthy, even if you'd normally think of her as out of your league.
Another tip on how to talk to girls - keep in mind that confidence doesn't mean you can't appear to be at all nervous. It's perfectly acceptable to appear nervous, so long as you maintain the impression that your nervousness isn't due to feelings of inadequacy on your part. Maybe you're just a nervous kind of guy, but still perfectly confident about who you are.
Also, you can use your nervous energy to your advantage, giving you a sense of energy and vibrancy they may find attractive. A lot of girls find some amount of shyness in men sort of cute in a charming, Hugh Grant kind of way, but if you're mumbling and acting like your not worthy of their attention they'll probably lose interest.
These are all just starter ideas on how to talk to girls and shouldn't be thought of as principles. Being confident of yourself can never hurt, however, no matter who you're talking to. The best way to learn how to talk to girls is to just have fun and be yourself.
Sometimes it will work, and sometimes it won't, but that's ok. Remember, if you don't hit it off then it's probably because you're not a good match, and so it's for the best anyway. There are plenty more fish in the sea!
This article was written by Don Mitchell for Help & Advice.
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